Feeling Inadequate

Recently I have been noticing I have been feeling inadequate and I know this is putting me into a freeze response of moving forward. I found myself in compare and despair when I am feeling inadequate. I am not working in a traditional sense because I have a chronic health condition. I feel inadequate for not being able to fully recovery despite all the yoga, thought work, acupuncture etc. I feel inadequate as I am supported financially by my partner and family. I feel inadequate when I think about my future. I feel inadequate for not being able to cope with day to day life. I don’t want to just jump into an intentional model. Because I am starting to notice how these feelings have been historic, leaving me to over work till burn out and to people pleasers. I want to get to get to the crux of these feelings and move forward. But I don’t want to start making decisions whilst still feeling inadequate. I’d like to feel capable or even content on my F line moving forward.

 

Answer:

I’d like to take a moment to honor that you are coming here not to sweep your feelings of inadequacy under the rug, but to truly dig into the feeling so you can move forward. This is absolutely a cause for recognition at the very least, and full on celebration at best. Sometimes we can see something that is so engrained in our being (like feeling inadequate) because we’ve practiced it for a long time, that it seems like we need to overhaul the whole thing. However, it’s so much easier to do things in small steps. Perhaps step one is getting curious and more understanding of where these feelings come from. What if you did a model for feelings of inadequacy and it looked like this:

C: Feelings of inadequacy

T:

F: Capable

A:

R:

How would you fill the rest of this model out? What comes up for you when you think about feeling capable where you are to get emotionally exploratory? When you’re ready to share, please bring your insights back to us in a post titled, “Feeling inadequate pt. 2”.