Feeling Resourced is not Selfish

I recently had someone ask me to reflect on what it would take for me to feel fully resourced and I was excited about the opportunity to reflect and formulate a plan for myself but I have sat with this for three weeks without getting anything down on paper. I am not usually one to wait or procrastinate but I am feeling some pretty big resistance to this. I know one limiting thought is that this will make me realize the true extent of what it would take to feel resourced and that I will then be frustrated when it seems like meeting these needs seems like an impossibility. How can I release some of this blocked energy and start diving into this important work?

 

 

Answer:

 

This is great! You know what a worst case scenario might bring for you – you’d feel frustrated. What might the best case scenario bring? What about a middle ground scenario? Your brain is defaulting to the most challenging thing that could happen because that’s how human brains work – we look for threats to our sense of safety, and we avoid pain so we can seek pleasure. Your brain is being normal, albeit unhelpful for getting these wheels rolling.

It sounds like this is just a data gathering exercise. You are getting curious and writing a list. When you think about it like that, notice if anything changes. What does it feel like? What does your brain do differently?