Feeling unsure about whether to go freelance

Hi coaches

I have had that classic realisation that changing jobs multiple times hasn’t led to feeling any better about how I feel about working for others. However, I am feeling scared to go solo and become self-employed – even though I know this is ultimately what I want to do. I keep putting off the idea for a time when things are ‘more stable’ or when I feel more confident or know more, and what if there won’t be the clients and the work available (BTW I’m a gardener).

C: Wanting to change how I work
T: I am not ready / don’t know enough for this
F: Lacking
A: Don’t do anything to change my situation, feel disappointed / frustrated with the ‘work’ part of my life pie chart.
R: I’m not ready because I am not the savvy business owner I want to be

 

Answer:

This is a great model. Your result is good too, and try this one out as well to see which one resonates more for you: R: I do not get myself ready.

Fear is a normal part of trying something new. Your brain is programmed to stop you when you want to do something new. Your brain views it as unsafe, so it gives you thoughts.

That is not to say that you should quit your job right now. It is to say that nothing is going wrong.

In order to make the decision whether to go on your own or stay,  you want the feeling to drive that action to be a more attractive emotions like confidence, motivation, determination, desire. You do not want to make decisions from the less attractive emotions like fear, inadequacy, etc.

So if you need to feel more confident, that is the work to be done. Right now there are thoughts in the way like “I’m not stable enough” and “I don’t know enough”. So what would be different if you were “stable enough”? What would you have to know?

Lastly, if you imagined you were confident enough to make the change, why do you think you’d feel that way? That may be the thought to practice now. Bring back what you uncover for more coaching!