Feeling valued at work

I have been feeling burnt out/checked out at work. I would say I am in a freeze response. This is also coming from some things outside of work too. However I’d like to focus on the work related aspects. I posted in TFC Facebook about my tendancy to take a subordinate role around my colleage. He is like a mirror for a lot of qualities that I don’t see within myself, and I make that mean that I am a less good employee than him. Even though I also would not want to be like him in many other ways. If I take a step back and access my higher self then I would say that I am a valuable member of the team and have a lot to contribute. The main way in which I don’t live out this belief is if someone pushes back on my idea. I don’t then push back and fight my corner. Because of this I am feeling disempowerer and undervalued. I can also see that I am giving my colleagues a lot of power in the way I am currently acting. I’d love some coaching on how I can maintain my self confidence in work and also shine brightly.

 

Answer:

 

Let’s model this out quickly…

C: Colleagues say words about idea
T: I am a less good employee than them
F: Undervalued
S: Where does it show up in your body?
A: Don’t fight in my corner, giving away power,
R: I don’t show up as the kind of employee I believe myself to be (how does that land for you?)

What do you see in this model? Does it land? Notice what needs to be changed and what you think about it – what comes up for you when you review it?

Most of the time, to maintain or grow our self-confidence, we need to be courageous first. Where do you see space for you to be courageous so you can expand your self-confidence?