Flatmate convo – part 2

Thank you for your coaching on this!
The thought is along the lines of:
– This will threaten a safe house share if I speak up – because it works based on no one saying anything.
– This will create conflict – and ruin the amazing set up i have…

For context I was in an awful very conflictive house share before this which was a nightmare. So it feels risky to threaten what I have now. Even though I can see that communicating this probably wouldn’t do this. It’s just a clear request for future.
And that what is damaging this lovely set-up more is my own resent at him and not saying anything about it……

 

 

Answer:

 

It is a keen insight to know that your own resentment is not contributing to the the kind of set up you want, certainly! And it sounds like history and fear of repeating the past is also playing a part in this in your mind. Is there anything else that you learned from that last situation that could help you here? What comes up for you when you consider the possibility of a hard conversation building connection and understanding?