Flirting paralysis

Hi,
I’ve been wanting to be open minded to in person / organic meeting people in terms of dating, while I’m taking a break from dating apps.
What I forgot though, is that I sometimes struggle to make a move on people in person.
When I am hit on, I have a tendency to run away?! Often it’s because I don’t like them, but I think it’s also an instant nervous system reaction?
I also feel shy about showing my interest, eg with eye contact or approaching someone.
I feel some judgement around being my age – 31 – and still not being confident in this. I have friends who are sooo good at it. And I’ve always found it challenging.
There must be something about rejection in here – and paralleled with how difficult I find this in work too!
But also something around not feeling like someone would want me / my worthiness?
As part of being more open to organic interactions, I’d like to practice a more open mind. Maybe pause, assess the situation before I run. And practice showing desire, and making that fun?!
I don’t even know what to say to people, even though I’m an excellent conversationalist in so many other parts of my life.
Any tips much appreciated.
Many thanks

 

Answer:

Tell us about the other parts of your life where you are an excellent conversationalist. What makes you excellent in those situations?