Following a self-imposed schedule

I have a lot of time on my hands just now (weeks, with no actual start date yet) waiting for a delayed job start (part-time music tutoring in schools which I have done for several years) and am struggling to manage it. I also have my own business as a sound engineer/musician and want to be creative, get into life admin, home and garden improvements etc during this time. My goal for summer was to enjoy being creative, and I’m still not sure I picked the best goal for myself, I went with this as it seemed vague enough to have a shot at!

I am good at making plans and sticking to them *enough* when I have a routine like work to keep me fired up during the day, and whilst I still have plenty of social evening activities through the week just now, without the frame of work there are so many tasks whirring in my head I get stuck and stop, and potter/buffer or whatever. I’m at my best to be productive and stick with plans in the morning, but if things go wildly away from my plans, I get stuck in the following:

Unintentional model
C: I have made a plan for my time this week taking my cycle, other commitments, downtime and supports into account
T: The plan I made for myself yesterday doesn’t fit today
F: overwhelmed
A: do anything other that planned tasks
R: I’m less likely to make and stick to plans

I’d rather be somewhere like this:

Intentional model
C: I have made a plan for my time this week taking cycle, other commitments, downtime and supports into account
T: It’s ok if my plans change
F: supported
A: I do some planned tasks
R: I keep a healthy routine without the assistance of external demands like work

Thanks Coaches!

 

 

Answer:

Great work on your models. You can fill out your action lines a bit more if you’d like. Really notice what you do or don’t do when you are feeling overwhelmed and supported and what results that creates for you.

In your first model, your thought is T: The plan I made for myself yesterday doesn’t fit today

Why is this a problem for you?

What are you making it mean?

Notice what you start to think about yourself when you resist the reality of how you are spending your time. It sounds like there is a lot of self judgement happening. Pay attention to the story you are telling, because it is not factual, it is your interpretation. Do some work there being curious and compassionate and see what comes up.  Bring your models back for more coaching.