Get it Done – Thought Error?

Hi Coaches
So I’m finding myself in a bit of a spiral which is a repeating pattern of mine for my GID activity. I’ve already got a workshop offering for next month and my goal is to ‘deliver the workshop’, which means get a minimum of 4 people signed up and give the workshop. So far nobody has signed up and it’s resulting in my usual pattern of wanting to give up. I’ve noticed that I perhaps didn’t do enough (ok any) research to see if my audience would be interested in this and also, I know that July is a month where lots is happening and people go on holiday etc etc. But, as I’ve shared here on another topic, my back-up plan to living where I do right now has always been returning to London. I have always said to my partner that I would be able to find work way easier and would also be more successful (financially) with my self-employment because it’s London, there are more willing people, no language barrier etc.

The thought I have right now, is that if this workshop doesn’t work, it will invalidate that.

C: no sign ups to workshop
T: I’m a failure, I’m deluded
F: Pressure both socially and financially
S: Tightness in my throat and chest
A: Right now I’m intererrupting those thoughts with reminding myself of this thought error, doing breathwork or otherwise distracting myself. I also have committed to actively marketing it and so I’ll post a story or something like that. But it’s hard to really clarity what the ‘action’ is as a result of this feeling/thought
R: I have no idea.

I do have time until the workshop – like 3 weeks – and I have a plan for some promo. But it’s the feeling of pressure and stuckness that’s getting to me, because I’ve dangled Shiny London as a get out of jail free card for so long. I know theoretically that it doesn’t mean I could be successfully self-employed there if the workshop doesn’t sell, but still…

Maybe there’s something I’m missing? I’d be grateful for your thoughts.

Thank you!!

 

 

Answer:

This goal is awesome! You’re doing great. The point of a goal is to stretch yourself and bring up all your inner obstacles so you can work through them.  How is this dilemma actually a big win? Why do you think your brain wants to spend a lot of energy thinking about moving to London? What does your inner knowing say if you really listen? Do a bit of exploring here. Be compassionate and open.

Be on to your brain, though. Choosing to move does not have anything to do with your workshop goal. If you have a plan, it’s time to implement it. I would offer that you double what you are doing, quadruple it. Tell all the people about your workshop! What emotion would you need to create in order to do that?

For your model, you’re stuck on a result because you jumped to another model.  Pick one thought, one feeling (this needs to be a one word emotion, not a thought) and follow them through the entire model. So this could be broken up into 3 different models at least. When you separate them out, it will all become more clear. For example

C: zero sign ups for workshop and it is X date

T: I’m a failure

F: shame ?? what do you feel?

S:

A: how do you show up when you feel shame? What do you do or not do?

R: what is your result

See what you find and come back for more coaching.  PS, people tend to procrastinate and sign up last minute. What if you believed there are at least 4 people who just need a few more reminders to get them to take action?