Get it done – what’s coming up pt2

Hi coaches,

I didn’t get very far with my goal of completing a parenting course. I did week 1 of the 12 week course exactly how I wanted to – did the reading, listened to the seminar, wrote up the notes but that took much longer than I anticipated and then life just seemed to take over.

What I noticed when listening to Masie’s evaluate call was I actually instead completed a different goal that I’d shortlisted for the month. We have just moved and needed to get organised with putting up pictures / mirrors / shelves. I had chosen the parenting one over this goal as it seemed more meaningful – my children’s wellbeing over interior aesthetics. But what I’ve realised this month is my surroundings have a real impact on my nervous system and how I can relax. So without really even thinking about it, I’ve unpacked all the pictures, decided where they will go, hired a handyman, got decorator quotes and am feeling soothed and more at home now.

When I listened to Masie’s call and had this realisation, I felt relieved that I hadn’t just floundered and failed on the goal but had actually completed something important. Now my brain is offering that this is ‘cheating’ and actually I’ve just avoided the thing that requires a lot of effort. Sorry this is messy and unclear – I just felt I had to get it down!

 

 

Answer:

Thank you for sharing, I’m sure you’re not alone in having this happen. First, three cheers for getting your home set up how you want it! If you hadn’t made the other goal first, what would you give yourself permission to say to you? Say it! Let yourself sit in some warm fuzzy emotions.

Our brain offers us thoughts on default that often don’t serve us. They are just a pattern we’ve practiced for a long time. You’ve done so well noticing this one. How often do you find yourself thinking “this is cheating” or some variation of it?  Where do you think it comes from? How can you give that part of you some love AND choose how much energy you want to give to your default thought patterns? Let’s say it’s true, you just avoided the thing that requires a lot of effort….so, what? You can’t go back and change it now, so you just get to choose how you move forward and how you treat yourself.