Giving affection to my partner

During the summer workshop a theme that came up for me was how well connected I felt with my husband. One of the outcomes was to create more opportunities to connect – sharing a dinner each week just the two of us, remembering our joint interests, taking time for mini adventures, and simple as it sounds – just time to talk. This all sounds so obvious but admittedly as two commited parents of two small children, they often come first.
It occured to me that whilst in my spring in the run up to ovulation I feel really sensual and make time and energy for sex. I struggle, and perhaps I always have to give as much affection as I would like to at the other times of day. I’m not sure why. I am really affectionate with my kids. I grew up in a house without much physical expression of affection and still don’t get this from my parents, who do love me I know – maybe this is why? I can suffer with confidence – is this why? When we do hug and kiss in the day it makes me feel good and connected. We often say how much we love each other but some of me just feels too reserved to express that physically. I would like to change this and know I have the power just to do so, but am curious to explore why I feel like this and that might help it organically grow which I know would connect us even more. I don’t feel brave enough to ask for coaching on this so thought I’d start here!

 

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And we are so glad you did! What a wonderful opportunity to expand yourself and your sensuality with curiosity and compassion. Let’s jump into it with both feet. What do you think that feeling reserved about expressing your love physically at other times of the day means about you? Let’s start there and see what you uncover. Come back to us with your follow up submission entitled, “Giving Affection pt. 2.”