Hi Coaches,
It’s been a month since I wrote to ask a coach. Last submission you responded by pointing out the importance of addressing a need based on the hierarchy of needs. It really helped me see how; in challenging moments, I benefit from addressing my needs first and foremost. It helped me address that situation from a more grounded place and protected me from unnecessary stress.
So I’m writing in again as I learn more about how to take care of myself throughout change.
It’s taken me some time to adapt to the urban environment and I am super proud of how I overcame some thoughts and enabled myself to meet my goals regardless of what had happened with our previous rental and how that affected me. I had a pretty great month and I was dealing with adrenal fatigue.
Recently, some construction has started to take place near our rental and a very low humming sound has appeared. I am finding myself feeling very sensitive to the noise. I am trying my best to coach myself through it and I am also finding that it is taking a lot of my mental bandwidth.
I had planned to be in the city for another two months, I’ve made some commitments that I would like to see through. But I’m struggling to identify if I am pushing myself too much. Because I sense there is some perfection here and I have this idea of how this time in the city “should” go in order to be successful. But the fact is, I have achieved so many wonderful goals here but not all of them. And I don’t want to choose my goals over my wellbeing.
So I am trying to think creatively. Currently I wear noise canceling headphones and take breaks from being in the apartment. This has helped and I would also say that it isn’t addressing the issue entirely, because my ears are getting very sore and starting to ache. I also thought about taking a break from the city and revisiting my goals after a period of rest. To spend some time in the countryside and come back with a bit more capacity to see through the remainder of my goals. Or, if I should consider reimagining some of my goals, to consider how I could accomplish them from another location, etc.
I’ve heard in calls that this work of pursuing goals isn’t going to be comfortable, but how much is too much of a push. Because I sense sometimes that I expect myself to be like the people around me. That I have some ableist ideas of what I should be able to tolerate that aren’t in line what my body is saying. At this point I’m finding it hard to take care of my body and be in this environment.
Could you help me see some more options for myself? Do you have any tips on how to I can adapt my goals so that I don’t have to leave parts of myself behind?
I have this thought about leaving the city early, it’s like I feel sad to leave early and not see through my goals of how I envisioned this time. But I want to take care of myself regarding the sound sensitivity.
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