Goals & Capacity Part II

Hi Team,

I’m back for with some more questions for you coaches!

I made it through some challenges and I am so proud of myself. The city has been a difficult environment for me to navigate and I’m so amazed at how much I have been able to achieve. Last week there was a literal earthquake, and I made it through! I took a break from the city and it put a lot of things into perspective. After 16 moves (Yes, that’s 16 moves into new apartments/hotels/staying with friends or family), 4 countries, and 11 different cities and towns; it’s been a whole lot of learning and there is a lot to celebrate and a lot of experiences to digest. I realized, I’m bloody tired! As a phase, “preparing” (as mentioned in Maisie’s latest episode) and “landing” are two areas I want to bring more attention to as I continue this journey of moving abroad. I’ve really been jumping and jumping and my spring isn’t as bouncy.

I have a decision I want to make. It’s Leap from Vancouver to Denmark and rest, or, return to Revelstoke where I rest and recoup before my big leap to Denmark.

I don’t know which one to do, because we’re so close to leaving and I don’t want to complicate things by arranging more housing here and car rentals etc. And at the same time I would love to retreat before my leap. But… I could also leap and rest in Denmark after I arrive. I’m not sure which way to go and I’m a little concerned I’m pushing myself too much. I like the idea of spending a little more time preparing but I’m standing at the jump?

Am I afraid that if I stay longer in canada I’m just postponing, or am I trying to postpone because I’m scared and trying to control. Or am I really needing that rest. Or, I guess maybe it’s a bit of both.

What could be my happy medium? Any ideas?

Here’s what I have so far:

C: Wanting to leave the country prepared and rested
T: I need sometime in a calm environment
F: Curiosity, what would that look like, (struggling with that vision a bit)
S: sort of comforting but also some confusion
A: slowing down a bit, looking at my options
R: Choose a compassionate route, a rhythm that is sustainable for me that doesn’t lead to burn out

 

 

Answer:

So much to celebrate here! Look at al you’ve done! It makes perfect sense why you are feeling a bit of decision fatigue at the moment. If it did not matter at all what route you choose….which one sounds more fun? Which one sounds more like love? Maybe choosing curiosity as your emotion when it sounds like you need to make a decision isn’t quite getting you the result you want. What thoughts and emotions would drive your to this model?

C: Travel plans

T:

F:

S:

A:

R: I choose a plan by x date.

It does not matter what your reasons are. There are no good or bad reasons. You just get to decide. Why do you think your brain wants to judge you so much right now?

Action brings clarity. Take the energy you are using staying stuck in indecision and put it where you want to.