Having a hard time giving space and care to my needs

Hello beautiful Coaches,

This came up after coaching with you on another topic.
I find it hard to give time and take care of my needs. And even harder to recognise my needs.
Regardless of what my needs are, I find it difficult sometimes to make a decision, and I get into a confusion loop because I have ignored my needs and feelings.
Your question that brought this thought was:
“What can you get behind to fully have your own back for either going or not going? (to the office)”
I don’t really know how to answer it.

 

 

Answer:

First, we’re celebrating this exploration. You are asking great questions. You are noticing patterns. You’re finding some awareness.  Even our awareness of our lack of awareness is a big win! In coaching we use the term “having your own back” to mean that you know what you need and you do what you can to take care of yourself. Try taking the first step of brainstorming what you need, some ways you could get them (this could be mindset work or other ways to make the decision easier). It’s ok that you don’t know yet. This is all part of the process.

If you could be 1% better at recognizing your needs, what could that look like?

Try working on your relationship with yourself by creating a goal model like this:

C: I am a human with needs

T:

F:

S:

A:

R: I’m becoming a person who recognizes and cares for my needs.

Please adjust this model as needed, and you can pick a more specific circumstance as well. This will help you. Remember that this is a process and a practice, not something we need to fix. You are worthy and whole just as you are.