Help after operation

Hi – I don’t think I have the energy for a model, but maybe you can help me get to one?

I’m feeling pretty crap after having a hysterectomy on Friday – obviously my tummy is very tender, and very low energy, which makes it hard to find any positivity to get through this. I’ve been sent home with a catheter, as I couldn’t do a wee by myself before they sent me home, and I have to wear it for a week. It’s pretty uncomfortable and I find it really grossing out too. I’ve been pretty nauseous and am struggling to eat.
So the thing I would like coaching on is: I really feel like I need more from my husband, but he’s been having a really difficult time with his mum, the week preceding my operation so I know his tank is full. I know he is trying, but he’s just very low energy and although he is being loving, is mostly just leaving me to it.
Part of me completely understands why he doesn’t have more left for me, but in the past, I haven’t been very good at asking for what I need. I go between not asking, or freaking out afterwards because he didn’t read my mind. I hope that’s enough to go on, my energy is low. I know there’s a 5 day turnaround with this, but if you can make it a tiny bit sooner, I would appreciate it.

 

Answer:

First of all, please know that we are all on this side of the screen hoping for a speedy recovery for you. Secondly, let’s get to it. If we put distill your submission into a model, I’m going to guess that this is how it might look:

C: Post-Hysterectomy and husband

T: In the past, I haven’t been very good about asking for what I need

F: Uncertain

A: Not asking at all, freaking out because he didn’t read my mind, saying that I don’t know how to ask for what I need now, creating reasons that he wouldn’t be able to help meet my needs, not asking for help.

R: Believe that I am still not very good at asking for what I need.

This might be an opportunity to start changing that narrative. What if you didn’t need to be very good at asking for help, but just able to speak these four words out loud: I need more help? If it were possible to do this, and you could take one baby step toward communicating your needs differently, what would that look like? How would you feel? What would you think? Come back with what you uncover with the submission titled: Help After Operation pt. 2.