Help with a model

Hello,
I’ve not written a model in a while. In response to feeling like I can handle a situation differently, I have just written a model for a situation from today. I’m not sure about the R line and would welcome some feedback. Thank you!

C Pip tells me she doesn’t want to swim in her lesson and won’t get changed.
T This isn’t what is supposed to happen.
F Annoyed
A Respond without thought. Threaten action.
R Pip doesn’t feel understood.

C Pip tells me she doesn’t want to swim in her lesson and won’t get changed.
T Of course Pip can feel like this
F Understanding
A Reassure Pip. Hear Pip’s feelings. Get Pip to think of other times she has shown courage. Praise small steps. Suggest other ideas.
R Pip feels understood and we work together.

 

Answer:

 

Great models and so glad you brought them here for some feedback.

One thing to remember is that other people don’t belong in our R lines. Those are for us and us only. My guess, based on the models you’ve brought here is that your unintentional R is that you don’t understand Pip, and you don’t try to. My guess about your intentional R is that you do your best to understand Pip and give her opportunity to know you want to understand and support her through this.

How do those land for you? What questions come up for you when you see these different R lines? How does entertaining these ideas change how you see yourself in this situation?