Help with goal

Hello,
My husband and I have had a couple of great chats recently about where we are at in your relationship (about 15 years with 2 small children). We’ve made ourselves a goal for the year of “Deepening the connection in our relationship”.

This is important to us recognising that we’d like a bit more of our old spark, that life can be a bit too routine, time is limited, and we put a lot of value on our time as parents.

Rocks
1. Shared time –
*date nights (take it in turns to plan, aim for two/month – film, star gazing, podcast, TV, games, conversation cards and chatting)
*Fridays – every 2 months, Lucy to use holiday, spa, walks, rides, swims.
* weekend away – 10 year celebration – festival

2. Explore and increase affection
* Try for a 6 sec kiss every day
* Focus on coming home hug
* Lucy to mark cycle dates on calendar

3. Evaluate
Quick evaluate each week ‘what went well’, ‘what would we like to go differently?’. ‘How do we get there?’.
* Enjoy the process
* Document thoughts in a whats app chat

We are keen for any help. Do you think we’ve used appropriate wording and chosen the right rocks?

Thanks so much

 

Answer:

 

This sounds like such a lovely pursuit with a lot of opportunity for enjoying the journey and exploring together.

I’m going to turn the question back to you – what does your gut tell you when you check in on whether you’ve used the appropriate wording and chosen the right rocks for you? Notice what your body’s wisdom has to offer.

The beauty of goal getting is that you can test out your hypotheses for what will help you pursue what you want, and change approaches as you find out more about what does and doesn’t work for you. Don’t let perfect stand in the way of good.