Help with models part 2

Thanks for the feedback!
Having another go at a model from bedtime with two tired kids last night after a day at work…
C My needs
T My tank for managing my own/daughters emotions is running on empty and my husband doesnt seem to notice
F Irritated
A Snappy replies to husband. Almost cry.
R My tank feels even emptier.
From watching the coaching I start to see the links in the models but I’m keen to try and ask for help each week on a model because its a different when you have to write them yourself. I’m about to watch the model webinar in the harness the hormone modules. Thank you for any tips!

 

Answer:

Great awareness and your model is wonderful. The only place you could tweak is to get your circumstance really neutral. Picking a specific situation helps a lot. In this case, factually describe bedtime and what happened. You did what and husband did what? which brought up your thought that he doesn’t notice. This is a really important part of thought work because it gives us the base to our models and it helps our brain open up to thinking and feeling differently about similar circumstances.

Your result is good, notice how you are giving your power away when you believe it’s your husband’s actions that are the problem. A simple way to notice this is to compare how you think and feel if husband is not there (for a reason you respect) and you do bedtime alone vs when he is there and you do bedtime. It’s the expectation that is really painful, not your partner’s actions.

What would be different if you trusted yourself to manage your own emotional needs?