Holiday coming up

Hi,

I would love some coaching around my holiday that I have booked that is coning up at the end of July.

I have just worked out that I am due my period about 2 days after we arrive and am feeling a little bit of dread about the holiday. This timing of period almost exactly happened a few years ago where we arrived on holiday. My hormones highjacked my personality where I felt so irritated by my family, the busyness of the hotel, the fact I couldn’t just curl up in a corner and not be around people and rest. And then when I got my period I was emotional, weepy and sad.

I basically had the potential to ruin the rest of my family’s holiday by my mood swings and couldn’t just get on with it.

I am now really worried this will happen again. Travelling with kids is tiring. Holidaying with kids I need to be on my A game to be full of beans to do the water slides and be in the pool all day and exercise. And I feel like my hormones are going to screw me over again. I know I sounds like I am putting undue pressure on myself. But there is pressure when you spent that much money on a week to all have a lovely time.
If only we were going a week later and then I would be fine!! 🙈🙈🙈

Is there a reframe here? Not sure how I can make having no hormones work in the situation.

 

 

Answer:

 

There is expectation, but an expectation that your brain has created, even though you WANT to have a good time. Right now the result you’re creating is that you’re already not having a good time. Your expectations of how it should be and how you should be are colliding with the reality of what will happen with your body.

What if you lowered the bar for yourself? Imagine what meeting yourself right where you are might be like.

Let’s look at your A line. If you were meeting yourself right where you are in your cycle, what are some things you would be doing to set yourself up for as much success on holiday as possible? What would you allow yourself to do unapologetically while you are on holiday and your period starts? Choose some actions to create a model around.

Notice what it is like to plan to give yourself what you need when you need it, even if the timing isn’t ideal. What arises? Come back when you want to continue coaching on this.