How to stop comparing myself

My brother and sister in law always send my husband and us pictures of them out and about having fun and enjoying different experiences. They seem to go out a lot.

I want to be happy for them but I end up comparing my life with theirs and feeling very inadequate as I’m not out doing what they are doing.

I don’t want to go out as much as them and I’m happy with how I spend my days. However, when seeing their lives, it triggers me to feel like I’m not doing enough. I start getting thoughts in my head that I’m not good enough and I’m a loser in comparison.

Any clarity around this would be greatly appreciated!

Big love xxx

Answer:

Let’s look at the great awareness that you shared in a model.
C: Brother and sister-in-law send pictures
T: I’m not doing enough
F: Inadequate
A: Compare what they are doing to what I am doing
A: Don’t see the fun in my life
A: Judge myself for not doing what they are doing
R: I don’t see myself as enough

Notice that it may feel like the pictures that make you feel inadequate and compare yourself to them. It may seem like the pictures that stop you from seeing how you and your life as enough, but it is the thought you have about those pictures. Those pictures are neutral. It is when you think “I”m not doing enough” that you create this model.

What does it even mean to do enough?

How is what you are choosing to do with your life “enough” for you?

These questions to understand what your brain even means when it offers you these thoughts of “enough-ness” will help you clear up what is important to you. It may help you see what enough is for you, and that it may be different for others.

If you believed that your life was enough for you, how would you look at these pictures?