Indecision on next move

Hello lovely coaches.

My coaching is around me being really unhappy in my job. The company i moved to 6 months ago is not what i expected. there’s no organisation or structure. people are burning out and going off sick. my manager has been off for 2 months with anxiety issues, has returned to work and gone off sick again. However, I need this job to pay for my yoga teacher training that i pay for £250 a month. I want to quit but i feel tied to it and stuck. I had an interview recently for another role and was unsuccessful because they said i didnt have enough experience, which has knocked my confidence. I want to quit and look for something better because i’m worrying about this all the time, but i’m too scared of the implications. How will i afford to pay my rent and buy christmas presents for people. i also want to move to exeter next year and this job was going to give me the skills to do so.

Unintentional
C Working at X company
T I feel numb and don’t know what to do
F Fear
A Applying for jobs while working 9-5 at this job
A Burning myself out
A staying up late worrying and making lists
R I panic and worry about my situation without finding a plan for getting out of it

Unintentional
C Office meeting in person on Monday
T I can’t do this meeting
F dread
A Worrying, doing thought work to find ways to coach myself to go in to the office
R dread

Intentional
C Working at X job
T If i stay at this job a bit longer while i look for jobs, it will look better on my CV and be an easier transition
F Curious, hopeful
A do my job while looking for others
R I stay where i am but have some hope of a plan

I then spiral back into ‘dread’ again because my the atmosphere at work makes me so uncomfortable and the work i’m doing is high pressure and often lacking any sense or direction from the people above me. Any advice muchly appreciated thank you x

 

 

Answer:

What if the only direction you needed was from yourself? What if you didn’t need this company you don’t even want to work at to see your value, you just saw your own value? The pain you’re feeling right now is coming from you looking outside yourself for how you’re going to feel. It’s ok that you are, it’s what our brains want to do on default, but you have the Model so you KNOW that circumstances don’t create your feelings. For example, when you think about going into a meeting…what are you scared of? You said “I can’t do this meeting” Why?

When you look at the job you are in now, what about it specifically is bringing up the feelings: uncomfortable and high pressure? Do a thought download and write everything that’s going on in your head. No judgement and no editing. Then go back through and separate facts from story. You don’t have to stay at this job. You could quit today and trust that everything would work out. I would offer that you have a chance here to learn something very valuable from your time at this company, and it has nothing to do with them and everything to do with you.