Intentional model help

I have recently posted my first post on AAC and had some really helpful pointers from Maisie and Beth
I’m trying to work on my models and I think I’ve probably got two models on thoughts I’m having over taking responsibility for housework.
Here are the two I’ve worked on
C- household chores
T – I am the one who takes responsibility when things go wrong
F – angry, upset
S- flushed, pulse quickens, head feels hot, migraine
A- stomping around, snapping at the dogs, arguing with Dan,
R- cancelling plans, going upstairs with a book to read. Feeling alone

The other one is the same circumstance but another thought, and is sometimes the path I end up going down
C- household tasks
T- I am not any fun anymore
F- sad I feel that I have lost myself
S- hollow, empty, I feel grey inside
A- arguing with Dan, telling him I want to end the relationship as I want “me”
back again, telling him that he can spend time “playing” while I have to do all of the jobs. Looking at houses on zoopla that I could live in on my own
Then spending time on my own crying
R- cancelling plans for the evening if I have any, not talking to Dan and read in bed

So I have tried to use the advice given and these feel like the strongest thoughts and feelings I have when these instances happen

I’m trying to look at these and look at where I would start trying to change a line to get a more intentional model that doesn’t result in an outcome which is really a bit self destructive
Thanks ☺️

 

Answer:

 

Hey! Nice models here, and way to incorporate the advice/suggestions you received in the community. I am curious about your first model – I get the sense that there’s some blame in this model, and I’m curious about where it shows up. Your R line doesn’t seem very connected to your T line, so I wonder what kind of R line you think you create by taking these actions as it pertains to responsibility. What do you think?

As for creating an IM, what kind of result would you like to create for yourself around household chores? Keep Dan out of it because you can only control yourself. Come back when you want more coaching on this!