Irregular cycle – getting to the root cause

I recovered from HA in August 2021 and have had periods ever since but they are irregular. Last few months cycle lengths: 39, 39, 34, 39,50, 40, 44, 32). It’s now been over a year post-HA and I’d have hoped my periods would have become regular again by now. I have also noticed in recent months far less cervical mucus, so I don’t think I’m ovulating.

Blood tests showed as “normal” according to GP, and they just closed my case. I chased them and now an ultra sound is being booked next to investigate further.

Today is day 2 of my period and I am feeling intense anger. I feel angry because:
– my period arrived after a long cycle (day 39)
– my period is extremely light yet my low mood and stomach cramps is more intense than other months*
– slow/lack of help from GP

*I specifically have anger today over the fact I have intense symptoms yet a light period, I feel that I “deserve” a healthier/heavier period as a result of feeling other symptoms so intensely.

How can I shorten my cycles once and for all? How can I do this without GP’s who I don’t trust know what they are doing when it comes to female hormone health? I know this anger and low mood will subside, I keep reminding myself to be compassionate, this will pass by tomorrow. Hence I want to focus this coaching on what more can I possibly do to fix my long cycles, and what resources (e.g. suggested modules in TFC) and people can I engage with outside of GPs.

Thank you

 

 

Answer:

Please bring your cycle related questions to the facebook comminity for feedback, there is no specific module on HA but all the resources will help you find peace around your cycle as it is. We cannot provide medical advice in Ask a Coach.

We can help you with mindset. Thank you for bringing your questions here. The length and flow and symptoms of your periods are your circumstance. You’ve done a great job recognizing that and the thought that is currently making you angry.

What if you just let yourself be angry about it for a while on purpose? Not just the one day where you have hormones + anger but every day that you wish this was different.  Use compassion to see that our brains like to throw a tantrum like a toddler who didn’t get what they wanted. You want regular periods, doctors who listen and fix it and your cramps to be relative to your flow. Don’t talk yourself out of the tantrum. Own it.

See what feels different if you just allow yourself to have the full experience of a human with a uterus that is cycling at day 39 with no change in sight. This is your reality. fighting it only brings pain.