irritability through moving to another city

Hi,
I just moved to another (smaller) city because my partner will do his PhD there for the next four years. I feel quite lost and frustrated, irritated by my new circumstances (new flat, new city, no social network yet). I also have the underlying impression that I demand my partner to show me around and to make sure that I feel comfortable, even though I know it is my own job to make me feel comfortable and open-minded toward new places and people. I tried the thought-feeling-action model from Maisie but its kind of hard to sort out the various emotions coming up currently. How can I constructively couch myself to identify my needs and revive my capability of feeling at ‘home’ inside myself unconditional to where I geographically am?

Sorry for being

Answer:

First of all, what a relief that your submission got cut short! You NEVER have to apologize for showing up where and as you are in this space! We welcome all of you here.
Secondly, it can be difficult to parse out emotions, especially when you’re new to the model. You’ve named three here, so you’re off to a solid start. It’s really easy to think that feeling at home means not feeling lost, frustrated, or irritated, but these feelings are just as human and indicative of you having an experience yourself as feeling ‘at home’ is. What if this is just the part of this transition where you feel lost, frustrated and irritated and that’s okay?
Something interesting to think about is what makes a home? Get curious about what kinds of feelings are allowed in that space for you. Are more uncomfortable feeling emotions welcomed? Why or why not? If they were welcomed in, what would be different about how you’re experiencing and viewing life right now? Come back to us with what you discover when you’re ready in a submission titled, “Moving pt. 2”.