Irritable for no reason

Today I am feeling really irritable. We are going away tomorrow, but I don’t think I’m stressed about that. I had to buy a few things so went shopping. I went in Boots the chemist and they didn’t have any manned tills – they were all self service which I don’t like and the machine started asking me stupid questions. I felt really irritated. Then I asked my husband a question like which way do you want to go and he replied asking me the same question. I said can. you make a decision please, he said which way do you want to go? I lost my rag and started marching off. I hate being like this but can’t seem to stop it sometimes. I don’t like shopping at the best of times but especially on a Sunday.

C – There are no cashiers only self service tills
T – I don’t like that
F – Annoyed
S – Tight in the chest and stomach, ache behind the eyes
A – Get cross and upset
R – Shout at husband when he won’t make a decision

Intentional
C – There are no cashiers, only self service tills
T – I must remember to go to a different shop in future OR It is what it is
F – Calm
S – Relaxed
A – Carry on with my day
R – Don’t cause argument with husband

I am trying to practice radical acceptance, but obviously not very well!

 

 

Answer:

Check in with your body. If you have a cycle, where were you in it? How was your sleeping and eating? Is there anything else that might be affecting your level of irritability? What about your nervous system? How was your energy?

Your models look well done.IN your intentional model, your result could also be R: I accept reality.

I would offer that you question your first thought a little more. Don’t edit or judge, just let yourself ask questions until you resonate with something. Why is it a problem that there are only self service tills? Why don’t you like that? See what you find. Why do you think the combination of the root thought causing your annoyance plus your thoughts about your husband not choosing a direction to go caused the reaction it did? Where do you think it’s coming from? There’s no rush to fix this. Keep compassionately exploring. Bring back any insights, questions or models for more coaching.