Is now the right time thoughts

Hi coaches, having been in the void in two aspects of my life, both at work as I’ve been feeling fed up, not getting satisfaction out of my role and navigating change which I haven’t had much control over, and also in my personal life as waiting to start ivf with genetic screening, the last couple of days I’ve found myself in a place with a very strong sense of what I want.

I’m now keen to jump straight into making that happen straight away, planning how I can find alternative part time work to enable me to have some income while setting up the business that I really want to do. But I also keep thinking its not the right time to take these actions, I should stick out the job I’m no longer happy in until after starting a family, as don’t want to be financially insecure. But then the counter arguement comes in that I can’t put my life on hold, the ivf may not work anyway and then I’ll just have stayed in a role where I don’t want to be for no reason at all, and so on.

So what I’m really asking for coaching on is how to discern between valid reasons to delay and excuses for not taking action to improve my life.

 

 

Answer:

Give yourself loads of love. It can feel very dark in the void. You’re not alone. For your questions-The truth is, we get to choose our “hard.” Life is 50/50. Staying in the job has comfortable and uncomfortable parts. So does looking for a new job. So does starting a business. So does growing your family.  The more we can accept this about life, the more we can stop resisting reality.

If you feel keen to jump in straight away, what is stopping you? When would be the right time? How can you support yourself as you make these decisions.  How does it make total sense that you want to keep what seems like a secure thing as you’re going into a pregnancy? Instead of telling yourself you’re making excuses and delaying, what if you took a moment to understand and explore yourself.  In what other situations do you feel a strong sense of what you want to do, and then stop yourself from doing it? Did anyone ever offer you their thoughts about this part of you?

Keep exploring. Bring back any questions or models you find.