Job & Housing disempowerment pt 2

Thank you for these exercises!
When I thought about basing in the town I’m currently in… I noticed I felt relaxed, but I also felt a bit numb & disconnected from my body sensations.
The wisdom these responses had to offer me is that it would be relaxing for my nervous system to have a home base over winter in the town I’m currently in.
As I was doing this exercise these thoughts came up… “I was unhappy when I lived in this town previously”… “I can’t feel much sensation in my body, what is wrong with me. I feel cold, is that because the room/house I’m in is cold? I do know it would be good to base here over winter. I am clear about this & my partner will just have to adapt to this decision”

I’m still feeling anxious about job situation. I haven’t felt like I have the capacity to work full time & I am currently on universal credit but in an entanglement of lies. I’m going to tell them the truth soon that I have moved towns & I am not working as a massage therapist. The thought of having to be on UC again & pretend to be doing 40 hours of job searching a week again feels very disempowering. I might be able to go & do 3 weeks of live in care for my friends grandma in another town & earn £3000 which on one hand is amazing financially but in the other hand I’ll be very isolated & worried I might be triggered as my dad has alzeimers diagnosis this year & the woman I’d be caring for is in later stages of Alzeimers & I’m struggling with PMDD for the last year. I want to be running my own workshops & retreats or be doing some enriching community work but I feel I’m not ready or skilled enough to do this yet & have been thinking I should work full time to save up for more courses to gain the skills & confidence I need to create a more empowered income.
Any support around job empowerment would be great, thank you

 

Answer:

What if I told you that you could choose to feel empowered right now and that it’s not a feeling that you have to wait for? For whatever reason, we are raised to believe that we will feel empowered when we already have something. But we don’t have to wait to act from an empowered place. We are not victims of our circumstance. That’s the brilliant thing about the model, it puts us in control of our own story. This is where our thoughts take center stage, and use the script we decide they get to use.
I’m not saying that you should be able to jump to that place where you think that you can do and have anything you want because you’re such a badass b (although I believe that is possible for you!). What I’m saying is that you can choose to feel empowered now in small ways. One way that this happens is when you make decisions that you can stand behind.
Let’s take the example of care taking your friend’s grandmother. You have a decision to make – do I say yes to this or do I say no? If you were to choose to stand in your power about this decision, what would you choose? Why? Notice how your body feels. Notice what thoughts you have. You can practice this with smaller decisions too – do I buy the red toothpaste or the blue toothpaste? Go for a walk or rest? When you think about your approach to jobs as a series of decisions, and that you can make those decisions feeling empowered by choice, what opens up for you? Come back to us for more coaching in part 3.