Job offer accepted

Hi Coaches,
Two days ago I accepted a job offer. This is the first time I am re-entering the job market after 2,5 years. I spent half of the time sick with burnout and depression and the other half applying for jobs. Now I have the offer and I start on the 15 March.
Wow.
I’m coming to you because I feel overwhelmed with emotions. And I have noticed that I can’t access joy, celebration or the expected relief – yet.
Instead my brain has gone into a franzy of fear and damage control. The last job I had was awful and I suffered a lot and my brain is super scared this will happen again. Scared of being mistreated and scared of adapting too much to others so that I might lose myself again (biggest fear).

I am scared about the life change From having control over my own time for years and now going back into a 40h work week. It almost feels a little suffocating. Will I have enough space to look after myself?

I wanted to ask for some coaching on my “damage control brain”. It has gone into so many “what if scenarios” that a model each feels like too much.
I wonder if the key would be affirmations in self-trust? (My word of the year is Release).

I noticed there’s is also one part of myself that needs self compassion because it feel tender and vulnerable due to the suffering in the past job and the struggle of applications in the past years. Do you have advice or a link in how to do tend to this. I find it harder to really feel into this but I know its there.

What I do recognise is that I feel a lot stronger and have more resilience and tools to support myself, than i had in the pervious job

 

 

Answer:

Congratulations! We’re celebrating you getting the job and you getting this opportunity to work through this frenzy of fear. Isn’t it interesting how as soon as we solve one “problem” of not having a job, our brain immediately gives us more.

You are right on with adding that YET.  Trust that this isn’t going to be your permanent experience. If you want to feel joy, celebration and relief, you’ll find a way.

Why does it make perfect sense that your brain and nervous system are overwhelmed right now?

Do what you need to do to address that. What’s your favorite way to calm your nervous system?

The key is always self trust. You are right on. And you’ve already got one of my favorite thoughts for overwhelm: “I am stronger and more resourced now than I have ever been.”

This is a process.  Try finishing this sentence:  This is the part where…