Leaving TFC

I was planning to leave TFC next month but as the date has come closer a strong feeling of not wanting to leave has come up. Originally I was planning to leave due to having less money and feeling that I’ve got everything I need, but now my finances have improved and I’m going through this restructure at work, I feel like I could use the extra support and stability of being in a familiar community.

I have a strong “should” thought about leaving, because other people have left. (This comes up in other areas of my life) Why should I leave? Because if I stay it means there’s something wrong with me. That’s actually a bit of a breakthrough – usually my thought is that I’m doing something wrong, but I’ve never uncovered the thought that there’s something wrong with ME, and that could be underlying a lot of my models.

By staying while other people leave or ‘graduate’, I feel like an injured duckling staying on the shore while all the other little ducklings swim off into the distance.

Of course that’s not TRUE, but it’s really helpful to uncover the thought that’s underlying my handwringing about staying and what it means about me.

 

Answer:

We love a good breakthrough! How are you feeling about it now that you’ve written it down?  As for your questions: How do you feel when you envision that injured duckling on the shore? Where are you judging yourself in this story? What beliefs might be underneath your disapproval of your desire to stay?  Where could you give yourself compassion?  You are an adult and you can do whatever you want to do. I would offer that Maisie and many of us on the team have coaches, and sometimes multiple coaches. What does your brain make that mean about us? Do some exploring and bring back any questions or models that you find.