Looking after myself on holiday visiting family – Part 2

Thank you for those reflections on my models – they really landed for me. You are so right that I’m bracing for something…

I just laughed whilst doing a model with the thought ‘meeting my needs can be easy’. The As were: notice my needs, speak them/act on them. R: my needs get met. I can see that it really can be so simple.

I’m also going to spend some time on that part of me that is uncomfortable speaking up around my family. It immediately takes me back to being a child and I love that I can nurture and encourage myself now to speak my needs in the way that perhaps I wasn’t always encouraged growing up.
The thoughts that come up are: my needs are important, I have my back no matter what, I always look after myself, I am great at getting my needs met, I know what I need, I love myself no matter what, I’m not responsible for other peoples emotions, I’m giving others the chance to know me.

 

 

Answer:

So glad it landed.  Celebrate yourself for being open to the coaching and for listening to yourself. That’s powerful work to be doing. Be sure your Result is always about you. I’m not 100% sure if you mean that you will get your family to do what you want? Or something else.  Just clarify that for yourself. We can’t ever really control others. You do have the power to meet your needs, no matter how your family acts.

When you notice that inner child showing up, always ask them what they need. Do your best to love on them, and tell them what they need to hear.  They can be great guides for us as adults with many more tools and resources. Keep being the real you!