Making a big decision whilst feeling ill.

Since being ill last summer, I have been doing lots of thought work and trying to listen to my body more.
At present I am constantly dizzy and haven’t been able to teach for about 3 months. During unintentional models the concept of stopping my music lessons, has come up several times. I have done more models about this and overall I feel that it may be better for my health and headspace, to stop these lessons all together.

However, I am reluctant to make such a big decision while I am feeling ill.
Thoughts like;
Should I wait to feel better?
What if I regret giving them up?
constantly enter my brain.

It is almost the end of the academic year, so I’ll be getting a long break during the summer holidays anyway. I don’t want to be too hasty.

Part of me thinks I should just sit with this and keep doing the occasion model.
Part of me thinks that I should take action.
I am struggling to find the confidence to help me make the decision.

Any questions or considerations would be most welcome.

 

Answer:

Thank you for coming to us with this. Being in indecision can feel very overwhelming and can make the process seem so complicated. Let’s move in the direction of simplifying it.

First, I want you to answer the questions that arise when you feel hesitant to stop your classes now, especially the ‘What if…’ question, and consider the other side of the ‘What if…’ – what if you don’t regret giving them up? Answering these turns off the automatic response that our brains have when we’re feeling afraid and turns ON the prefrontal cortex, which allows us to apply and use reason. It’s a total power move on our parts. What do you discover?

Secondly, let’s take a look at the last three statements you made about you thinking different things…I want you to tack on the question “Why?” to the end of those statements and answer it. Notice how you feel after answering, and take special note if any response feels particularly calming, relieving, exciting, or simple. This will help clarify the reasons that you would choose to continue your lessons or stop them. The next step is deciding what reasons you like the best, and getting behind them 100%…we call it having your own back.

Come back any time with what you discover, decide to do, and for help with next steps.

And thirdly, what if this isn’t a big decision after all, what if it’s simple?