Making assumptions about how friends think and feel

Thank you for the previous coaching. The idea that I come out of connection with myself when I’m in my IM really resonated. If I want to connect authentically with others then being connected to myself is a must. When I get preoccupied guessing how others think and feel I am not processing my own thoughts and feelings. Also I know there is a difference between being empathetic and between feeling responsible and/or trying to fix which I’m prone to.

Here’s my new IM

C: my friends want children/more children. I have two children
T: We each have our own lives and get to connect through friendship
F: connected
A: listen and be listened to, support and be supported by, notice compare and despair in myself, not mind reading, not trying to solve their problems or control their decisions
R: Connect with my friends authentically

Thanks

 

Answer:

Wow wow wow! Well done here with this model. It’s so good! I love the thought, “We get to connect through friendship.” So powerful.

So, next question: what is your plan to get to this IM? You had mentioned ladder thoughts in your previous post. What Ts are going to build the ladder if you still think you need it? What will you do if you start to feel disconnected from yourself and your friends? We look forward to hearing your responses when you’re ready for more coaching.