Massive action week

Massive action week is looming and I am feeling a bit stuck with how to go about it. My goal that I set was to build a better relationship with myself and to feel comfortable in my body. My rocks are: 1. Find something to love about myself everyday that I can agree with. 2. Celebrate something about myself everyday 3. Learn to process my emotions instead of buffering with food.

I know i am making progress. I have been finding something to love and noticing what thoughts come up over these past 5 weeks. I’ve been leaning into letting my emotions come out rather than stifling them. I am definitely feel more caring and supported by myself. However, a big part of this goal was about feeling comfortable in my body which is not going so well. My plan was to either feel good about my body as it is or to loose some body fat and feel better that way. (I didn’t phrase it as lose body fat because deep down even if I lost 2 stone and was technically underweight I would still pull apart my body and it’s flaws).

I still have so much shame about my body. And comfort/binge eating is in full flow. I am not up for dieting and punishing myself with restrictions. I ideally want to just eat normal meals when I’m hungry and quit these sugar binges.

I feel like I am putting in the time on all the thought work. i’ve done unintentional models on all the thoughts I have around my body. Created those emotions into characters and then invited them in for a chat etc etc… but seeing no results in terms of body confidence.

So my question is… I am up for massive action week but a bit lost on what I need to do to target feeling at ease and unself-conscious in my body… Should I change/add in a rock to address the sugar binges? Do I just need more patience and carry on doing what I’m doing and maybe it will fall into place in another month? Do chuck out all those old clothes that don’t fit in the hope of getting back into them?

I’d really appreciate some support on what might super-charge this aspect of my goal for massive action week. Thanks so much 🙏

 

Answer:

Great questions. First, it will help to understand what you mean when you say certain things.

1. If you were more comfortable in your body, what would that mean? Think about how you would feel, what would you think, how would you act toward it?

2. Why do you feel shame about your body? Knowing when those feelings come up and the thoughts creating them (why you feel that way), may help you understand what you do want. For example, if a person felt shame when they put on a bathing suit, understanding the thoughts that they have may help them know what they want to think in that situation. In this example, if they thought “I should look better to wear this suit.” then thy may want to change it to something believable when they put on their suit. It may sound like “I”m working on believing that I look exactly as I should in this suit.”

3. Why do you binge? Beginning to understand why this happens may help to address it. If you binge because a feeling is uncomfortable to you, then there is some work that needs to be done on allowing those feelings, and processing the urge to eat the sugar to escape it. Where your thoughts about your body come into this is as your why you are willing to do the work to process the urges and feel your feelings. If you valued and loved your body, then you may think “I am willing to learn how to do this in order to treat my body with love and respect.”

After answering those questions, see if you gain clarity for your massive action. What do you want to do to move towards this goal?