Models for Goals

Hello coaches,

Initially I thought I had chosen a great goal – one that crosses many aspects of my life and will help with my overall wellbeing – my goal is to experience radical rest. Then my mind suggested that this goal is too easy and I should be striving for something active! But I’ve realised this is just my mind trying to get me out of pursuing this goal entirely, so it must actually be an important opportunity for growth.

My mind wants to overcomplicate these models for my goal (these are my first longish-term models that I’ve ever worked with) and I would love some feedback. Thank you!

Unintentional –
C: Work/life balance.
T: I should be working all the time.
F: Burnt out.
A: I work every available hour as an excuse to avoid thinking about what would bring me pleasure. I plan a lot of activities that I think will be good for me, but don’t end up doing any of them. Tell myself that I’m too tired to fit anything into my day other than work commitments. Draw my work day out by interspersing it with buffering. Rarely schedule in days off.
R: I don’t have healthy work/life balance.

 

Intentional –
C: Goal of Radical Rest for 90 days.
T: I am taking beautiful care of myself.
F: Loving.
A: self coaching when I try to fill up my time with being ‘busy’ or buffering. 1 hour minimum a day of not doing anything. Don’t work on the weekends. Turn off my phone for allocated times each day. Distinguish the difference between when I’m working and when I’m switching off. Check emails only once on weekdays. Develop an enjoyable movement routine (swimming + pilates class once per week)

 

Answer:

These are great models with good awareness. To finish off the intentional model, what do you think of this result, R: I find the beauty in me, or, I take beautiful care of myself?

Before you go to the intentional model, it may be helpful to understand your unintentional model. Why do you think you have to work all the time? You can create a model from that thought. You can also create a model from the answer to this question: What do you make it mean when you do not work.

Your brain does things for a reason, so I think it will be helpful to understand why it thinks you need to work all the time. When you understand that reason, then it is easier to show the brain how that may not be true. This will allow an easier move to your intentional model.

Also, when you think “I am taking beautiful care of myself,” do you believe it? That is the other way to know that you are ready for that model.