Morning Family Routine

This morning my husband asked me to give the kids their breakfast because he had to leave early (to take my car to the garage for me). He usually does it while I’m in the bathroom and getting dressed. I didn’t respond in a way I’m proud of and would love some coaching on these models.

Unintentional
C: T said “Can you give the kids breakfast because I will have to leave early?”
T: He should have told me he would have to leave early last night
F: Annoyed
A: Tell him that he should have told me last night so I could have got up earlier; sigh; grump about; disconnect
R: ?

Intentional
C: Morning Family Routine
T: I’m centred here with my family
F: Centred
A: Adapt when necessary; don’t rush; stay in self-responsibility; accept others as they are; retain connection to self and others; trust that I am safe
R: I stay centred with my family

Answer:

You can totally have that second model as an IM to believe about your family’s morning routine, but for the sake of processing your feelings about the way you responded to your husband, let’s change things up a bit. You are aware of what thoughts created annoyance for you, and what you did from that space. The result you create is that you stay in a world of what should have been instead of addressing what is. There is nothing wrong with this reaction, because you’re a human, and humans sometimes feel annoyed with their husbands. It’s okay. However, before we get to the intentional model of what you could believe about what your husband said, let’s look into how you feel about your response.
C: UM where T said…
T: I’m not proud of how I reacted
F: Ashamed (just guessing here)
A: Do models, think of how I responded the wrong way, what else do you do? What do you not do?
R: Focus on why I shouldn’t be proud of myself
If you were to create an IM about the way you reacted, what would that look like?
C: UM where T said…
T:
F:
A:
R
Does creating this IM about how you reacted allow you to examine your first unintentional model differently? How? From this place, how could you choose to think about what your husband said? Let us know how this lands and what you learn or uncover.