Moving to a new country

My husband and I have decided to move to the US for a new job he has been offered and one of my biggest concerns about the move is that I don’t know anyone there and will have to start all over again (these are my thoughts)

My current thoughts are things like: I don’t have a community there / I don’t have a support system there / I’ll have to start from scratch / New friendships aren’t as strong as old friendships / It’s going to take a long time to make new friends / I’m going to feel isolated / etc. etc.

I’d love to get some coaching on how I can reframe my thinking on this. Thank you!

 

 

Answer:

Change can be scary because of all the unknowns.  It can help to allow space for the feelings that are coming up. Nothing is going wrong here. You’re a human moving to a new country! Why does this make perfect sense?

If you would like to, we would offer that you ground yourself in what you DO know.  Work on your relationship with yourself. What are you bringing to your new community? What do you know about yourself that will help you overcome these obstacles? What do you know about your ability to be uncomfortable or isolated for a time?

Question some of your thoughts as well. It could take a long time to make friends, but what if you’re wrong about that?  Perhaps you know nobody, but maybe you’re wrong about that too. New friendships might not be as strong…so, what? What is fun about new friends?

If you felt comfortable, you could even ask in the community if there are any Flow-ers in your new area. We’re here to support you every step of the way. Bring back anything you want more coaching on.