My money mindset

Hello team,

after the money mindset workshop, I have set up my module (actually several) to my unintentional thoughts on why I avoid knowing my finances/ why I avoid to take responsibility in this area of my life.

So here it goes:
C: financial situation is unclear
T: I can’t do this, it’s too much.
F: dread, defeat
R: I don’t know my numbers
A: I overspend and am not in control of my finances.

C: financial situation is unclear
T: I am broke therefore I am a failure.
F: shame
R: I mask.
A: I “binge-spend” (for a time I only buy the necessities and then I overspend big time as a reward)

A more intentional model could be:

C: financial situation is unclear.
T: I am a quick learner, I can learn to handle my finances
F: determined, in control
R: Ready to pick up the responibility that I’ve been avoiding.
A: Set up an overview of my spendings to analyse it. Think about how much I want to have in a savings account to make me feel safe whatever happens. Maybe even glimpse at an investment blog to learn and understand the possibilities of letting my money work alongside of me.

What do you think? Is there anything I don’t see yet that you can point me toward?

Thank you and have a lovely day!

 

 

Answer:

In your circumstance, get really clear and objective.  What are the facts? It’s helpful to pick a specific situation to gain clarity and make your models easier.

For example: I last logged into my online banking system on June 17.

Then you can do a thought dowload on all the things you think about that and put some of the thoughts into models and see what comes up. Your models are good, I notice that your results could also be that you continue to prove yourself right.  This is often the case when we are dreading and avoiding something, we create the problem we’re afraid of and then we blame ourselves and stay stuck in that cycle. The goal of doing models is to just see what’s happening without judgement. We want to love ourselves through this process, because it becomes clear that beating ourselves up isn’t changing anything.

See what comes up for you now as you reexamine your models. Then bring back any questions and also your intentional model to get help finding out what you truly want in regards to your finances.

Models work best when we keep them in the order CTFAR.