Need and stressed out about tidying up

I am at home with my one year old. I love it tidy and I need my souranding organized in order to feel calm an organized on the inside. Since I a mother I feel the need to clean up even more in order to have a sense of control. I want to today up everything that is not where I think its supposed to be in order to “be done with everything and enjoy the moment”. However I am finding myself tiding up all day and not having the moment of peace I wish for – and for what I try to tidy up in the first place. Can you help me understand what’s going on and build a loving relationship with my need to have my surrounding organized?

 

Answer:

 

Being at home with a one year old is not for the faint of heart – that’s a C in my book. When you say, “I am finding myself tidying up all day and not having the moment of peace I wish for – and for what I try to tidy up in the first place,” it sounds like what used to work for you to have a sense of peace and inner calm is not working right now. What comes up for you when I say that? What is the peace you wish for? Can you describe it? What would it feel like in your body? What thoughts might accompany that?

A clean home might be one of the things that helps create the feeling of peace you desire, so I wonder what the low bar for success in this area might be, and what else might contribute to finding that peace that you haven’t thought of yet – new things or thoughts, perhaps. What do you think?

This is a time for having the utmost compassion with yourself – you are growing and changing as much as your child. Extend the kind of love you have for them to yourself in this moment.