Negative pregnancy test pt 2

Thanks for your reply,
Some thoughts that came to me:
This is really hard
Youre dealing with something that is really hard
youre going to feel sad and angry and that’s okay
you dont have to do this ‘well’
you dont have to be okay
you’re not feeling too much
maybe you are doing it all right just as you are doing it

I want to be less ‘obsessive’ around hormonal stuff/ worrying about cycles etc
I want to feel more free
I want to take care of myself
I want to just be rather than living in the future

I think I dont know how to drop the urge to ‘control’ the situation. Im not really able to control it and I find that so hard.
Im getting very ‘researchy’ about everything and I think I should just let life be.

Im also worried that I might just not stop crying.
I just am not sure how to grieve this, I feel like I should be done by now.

 

 

Answer:

 

These are beautiful thoughts to lean into as you walk your way through this. Are there any that feel particularly sturdy enough for you to lean into?

With all of your desires that you’ve laid out above, I’d love to invite you to consider what the minimum bar for success would be for you in each of these arenas?

I have some good news for you: I’ve never known anyone who has never stopped crying. Grieving is not a sprint. You are allowed to be exactly where you are and we are here to help you walk your path, and rest at every stop you need to take. My sister told me once, “The grief we experience will never get smaller, but the container that we hold it in will grow to make room for it so it doesn’t feel so big.” What do you think about that idea?