New Goal to increase my self trust

I feel very strongly that I want my word of the year this year to be trust – this encompasses learning to trust myself, trusting my body trying for a baby after an ectopic pregnancy, trusting the creative process, trusting that my writing career will pan out, trusting myself with learning to drive which is a big one I put off from last year ect.

So I thought to make my first seasonal goal to increase my trust in myself but I don’t really know how to do this. I came up with the following rocks…

1) Getting coached or coaching myself as not trusting myself mainly turns up in crappy thoughts about myself.

2) Building self trust by working steadily on my various writing projects.

3) Starting a meditation practice – spending time in silence with my own thoughts.

I’m not sure if the meditation one is relevant or if this is just something else I’ve been wanting to do? Should I maybe use being more decisive? Is the fact that I’m writing to ask for your approval a classic example of me not trusting myself to do things right?

 

 

Answer:

I think asking for coaching shows that you are very good at using the resources you have. Celebrating that with you! What if you trusted that list list was just what you needed for now.  Why do you think you are being drawn to meditation? When you imagine yourself a year from now, having created a beautiful practice that fits your life and everything that is going to happen this year….how do you feel? What does that version of you want to tell you  today? What wisdom and encouragement do they have for you?

As an extra challenge, if you feel up to it, give yourself opportunities to build trust. Give yourself opportunities where you might fail. Show yourself you can handle it. You don’t need to feel the trust first. What is a ladder emotion that can get you to do the things necessary to build the trust?

For example, if someone wants to try hang gliding, but they can’t get themselves off the cliff…they won’t learn that they can do it. What emotion do they need to jump? What uncomfortable emotions do they need to allow to be there with them?