Not asking for help or breaking cycles of avoiding

On my first 7 day evaluation of the 30 day goal
I made my first action today
Before today I didn’t engage with my goal after setting it and I didn’t complete any day sheets
I’m finding that I’m quite good at avoiding / ignoring something if it’s not very present for me / find it hard to break a cycle of behaviour even if I’m aware of it
Eg had multiple evenings this week doom scrolling and going to bed late when I know sleep is the biggest thing that can affect my mood! Similarly not working on my goal of alignment of inner and outer world – but today reconnected with my why

Am thinking just need to make to too obvious to miss!
Set phone background as a reminder, set up habits
Commit to a part of my day where I engage, overestimate how much time it will take to account for buffer
Work with myself not against myself

Any other tips for not avoiding? I’m thinking why I avoid – it’s easier / status quo? Maybe getting involved with the cost of doing / not doing might answer some questions too

 

Answer:

 

Hooray for reconnecting with your why, and you’re doing it right on time for yourself. Well done.

The reasons we avoid doing a thing has more to do with how we think we’ll feel when we are doing it than what we’ll feel if we don’t. So what don’t you want to experience when you are putting energy into your goal? For example, when people procrastinate, it’s because they’re avoiding a difficult feeling (confusion, ignorance, doubt, incompetent), or the effort and energy needed to start a project. What are you wanting to NOT feel? What’s the worst thing that could happen if you decided to feel those things and do the darn thing anyway? What’s the best possible outcome of doing that?

It seems like you have some great ideas for yourself. Trust your inner knowing and commit to taking action.