Not liking a person III

WOW – this turns out to be a loaded topic … when I reflect on how I feel and what my heart says I keep shifting between the now and the past. To organize this a little:
I have to think about Maisies board room example:

I believe that todays Sarah, the CEO, is ok with being part of a world in which not everyone gets along with one another.
The CEO Sarah somtimes thinks: I have to like everybody and be liked by everybody
but that Sarah also thinks: I dont have to be sorrounded by people I dont like, I get to decide who I want to spent my time with professionally and personally.

From that seat at the table I do want to carefully create a team where people get along with each other. This might be a step by step progress as I can’t let people go from one day to the other but thats ok. This Sarah knows the direction she wants to take and walks this pathway.
T: they can be them
T: I dont have to like them or change them
T: and I dont have to work with them or change for them
T: they dont have to like me either
T: why bother?
T: they are free to express themselves elsewhere
T: I follow my values, creating a team based on kindness, trust and fun.

Another person in that board room is a child, slowly becoming a teenager and she is utterly scared about expressing herself. Just saying out loud what she wants seems impossible. She beliefs that she is lucky if someone talks to her and befriends her, she does not belief that she can decide who she likes and who she wants to spent time with. She is over cautious about what to say, when to speak, how to act and to react. There is a lot of fear but mostly sadness, it feels very alone and as I type this I think this is the isolated place that came up in my previous thought download. This part is not very happy and keeps thinking I am destined to be alone.

I’d like to explore more with the questions you suggested but I feel this is a really vulnerable place, where the child part needs some attention.

 

Answer:

 

You know yourself better than anyone so lets follow your intuition. What kind of attention does the child at the table need? What do you want to say to her? What do you want to offer her? What does she need from you, or the Sarah the CEO?