Hello coaches,
I’d really appreciate some clarity on work that I’m doing trying to observe my emotions. At the moment I’m trying to observe how I respond to other people’s emotions as an indicator of how I respond to my own. I feel excited about times when I have experienced more space before responding to another person, but I also wonder whether in noticing my emotion and labelling it, I almost censor myself.
An example is my husband accidentally shrinking one of my merino wool jumpers in the wash!!! I noticed the anger (waves) and frustration (grit in chest) and acknowledged them out loud. After this I felt like I didn’t know how to respond and felt stuck- my husband was so sorry and it’s happened with other jumpers so I didn’t need to say anything to help him in future!! But I felt the energy inside of me, but having rationalised it, didn’t really feel I could express it. Looking back, I think there are other ways I could express it like dance around or sing loudly! My go-to was to intentionally remove myself for some space, and was proud that I was able to move through the emotion and spend a lovely afternoon with him (I think we’re on jumper no 5 now so the frustration was real!! And previously when experiencing emotions I find uncomfortable, my go to is yo unintentionally withdraw and go into dorsal).
It felt a little similar to jumping into an intentional model without sitting with the unintentional one but I think it’s a slightly different situation. Perhaps it’s to do with my perception or comfort/ discomfort with anger.
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