Overeating and dealing with emotions

Hi!

I´ve had on my mind for a while that I want to deal with my thoughts about food and eating. I’ve been putting it of, sort of hoping that it’s just normal. But I’ve realized that I can’t really compare myself to my girlfriends on this, because they might be struggling too.

I’ve been dissatisfied with my body/felt unconformable in it since I was a teenager. And when I was around 22 I gained a substantial amount of weight. I just happened without me really noticing before my clothes suddenly didn’t fit anymore. Since then I’ve just been thinking. “when I get the time I’ll lose the weight and be myself again”

c: gained weight
t: When I get the time I’ll lose the weight and be myself again
e: panic
a: freeze, don’t do anything about it, eat to little then overeat at night, constantly think about my body, constantly think about calories
r: I feel bad and not like myself

I really don’t want to be in this model, but I have not wanted to face this issue because I’ve been determined like the thought says that I need to lose weight. Now I am not so sure I should do it. I love food, but I feel like I am always hungry and I am stressing over that I will be hungry after dinner while I am eating dinner.

When I am out with friends I am thinking about when I can go home and eat crisps.
This is clearly not healthy!

I think I am deeply sad about how I view myself and see myself, and I think that food helps with that. today I even had the thought “I know I am doing this to buffer, but I do not know what else to do”

So I am here for coaching.

Answer:

And we are so glad that you came. Let’s first take a look at your model. Why do you feel panic when you think, ‘When I get the time, I’ll lose the weight and be myself again’? I wonder if the panic is connected to another thought, though I’m willing to be wrong.

When it comes to working on ourselves, it’s so easy to think that the grass is greener on the other side, that we’ll like ourselves more when we do/achieve/reach ___x___ thing, but that’s not usually the case, because unless we work on the tough thoughts we have about ourselves, wherever we go, there we are regardless of our body size or accomplishments. This being said, what do you think would losing weight mean for and about you (there’s no wrong answer)? As a follow-up question, consider this: in what ways are some of these things about you true already?

Whether your weight changes or not, you are lovable and deserve to feel comfortable in your body, and we are here to help you along this journey. Come back for more coaching when you’re ready.