Perfection Model vs Imperfection Model and learning from that – Part 2

Hiya coach, thanks for your reply

“What’s happening is your brain thinks that the ACTION will help you feel better, but it never will.” – this is an excellent point, thank you

“In your first model, what do you think the big bad “what if” is?” – the house move doesnt happen smoothly and there are big issues like: the van is too small, the van isnt booked yet and cant find an option, we cant move our stuff, the deposit gets taken for repairs we didnt prioritise the time to do. etc etc.

“What would it look like to love yourself right where you are?” – Probably would feel really good. But what if i slow down if i prioritise myself in that way? I could let things slip and then the big what ifs happen again…!? 🙁

“How could you nurture your nervous system when you notice this panicked feeling coming up in your body?” – deep breaths and a sit or lie down. a timer for 5 minutes so that my mind doesnt go to the sentence i shared above of: IF YOU REST THEN ITS A SLIPPERY SLOPE!

“What do you think would happen if you just allowed the sensations of panic to flow through you?” – I guess i do already? I channel it into a go go go do-mode.

Thanks!

 

Answer:

 

I think this sounds like a great opportunity to think about what slowing down means and look like for you. What I am seeing is that slowing down means letting things slip. What does letting things slip mean? Why is resting a slippery slope? What would it mean about or for you? Is this 100% true? Why or why not? Get curious about what else might be true for you.

Let’s start here and see what your brain offers you, and we’ll continue with next steps when you come back.