Perfection Model vs Imperfection Model and learning from that – Part 6

“What tapestry do you want?” – My go-to: a tapestry where i accept my mistakes, so long as they aren’t big mistakes or mistakes with big consequences. My self-work person go-to: the tapestry i have right now, and accepting how it morphs and changes intentionnally/unintentionally

“What stories are you telling about the threads that make up who you are?” – My go to: Some are good and some are bad, the bad to be WEEDED OUT and restitched to be better. My self work person go-to: I mostly do great things with amazing consequences, sometimes i mess up with small to big consequences – thats how it is.

“How can it be powerful to be in a bit of an uncomfortable place with yourself?” – allows me to see myself as i actually am? rather than who i want to be.

“Be curious and compassionate as you explore how impatience, worry and tension are just the emotions you need right now.” – now this i don’t understand coach, can you reiterate this part?

Thanks!

 

 

Answer:

Often we have a preference for the comfortable emotions. The ones we like, the ones that are socially acceptable.  This does a disservice to being a human. For example, We aren’t meant to be happy all the time. Because what happens is if we’re not happy, we think something is going wrong.

If impatience, worry and tension are coming up for you, so what? Why is it a problem? You could choose on purpose to believe that these are the emotions you supposed to be feeling. Stop resisting reality.

This doesn’t mean you don’t do some work around why you’re feeling this way. You can still want to make shifts, You can even want to change the tapestry, but if you do it from a place of love and acceptance rather than trying to fix a problem, it will be a different experience. You can’t go wrong here.