processing a period of sickness of my nephew pt. IV

Thank you! 🤩

I think what I get caught up in, is that “bad” things just happen so unexpectedly. You think all is well and the minute everything is upside down. I worry that something could happen to him again and I don’t really trust that all is well just in general.

What also comes up for me, is that it’s just all seems unfair. It’s unfair that this happened to a baby. And it’s unfair that the joy of having a new family member was taken away from me and was replaced with fear, stress and worry. I really could have done with this unfiltered joy and I am sad and angry that it was taken away from me.
There is also some shame about these thoughts because I am just the entitled aunt who thinks that the sickness of her nephew is an “inconvenience”.(I am aware that this also is a thought)

There is also another element that I can’t quite grasp yet. It’s that after my nephews operation I have been getting sick a lot. I fell ill in the last 8 months about 6 or 7 times. I am not sure if this is related either because I felt unwell even before that. But it’s like after all of this happened I can’t quite keep it together anymore. This is not necessarily a bad thing, but it feels really uncomfortable to lose this control.

 

Answer:

 

Coaching is here so we can move through those moments when you think everything is great and going swimmingly, and then the world gets turned on it’s head. This sounds a lot like grief. If you were to look at yourself as someone who is grieving, how would you approach yourself? What would change about how you view yourself having moved through the world in the last year or so?

Remember, you can choose compassion for yourself.