Red flags in dating pt. II

Thanks for your reply, I’m not sure if I completly understand it though. It’s not so much about this particular person (is it?), but more general.

Like: How do I know if the signs that I see are still up to date? Has the roadwork been completed and the road is perfectly good to go, they just forgot to remove the sign?

Will I still listen to a warning sign, when I see it, or will I brush it off because the path looks tempting and beautiful?

And then again, a simple “may be slippery when wet”-sign has me screaming and run in the other direction. Which is perfectly understandable given my history (I might actually acknowledge this for the first time – WIN). AND it’s not helpful when you want to go on a hike or climb a mountain, preferably with another person.

I have a history of telling people “probably nothing is going to come out of this” whenever I meet someone/start dating. I dont believe that good things and good people are going to come my way and are FOR me.

Answer:

 

I wonder if the question that isn’t asked here (because you’ve run with the metaphor beautifully!) is, why would you not adhere to the signs’ warnings? Leaning away from the metaphor, the question becomes, what are the reasons that you might not listen to your own internal cues? What if they are there for a reason – and a good one at that? How could you start to listen in a small but meaningful way today?

All of what you are acknowledging (for the first time – celebrating with you – or the hundredth), and the things you recognize about your beliefs are powerful. Your true intuition knows what, and who, is safe for you. You are learning to tap into that and that’s a beautiful thing.