Reframing Heartbreak – 30 day goal pt 5

What’s you’re advice on the emotional kickback at reframing as exhausting?
There’s such an emotional see-saw involved – it’s a win, I have some new insights, but then it’s just sad – this time last year I trusted my resilience and ability to reframe. I felt like I trusted myself enough to be safe to be myself in the world. I’ve lost a lot of confidence since then for various reasons.
How do I start to trust this as a process that could bring lasting change? Or is there no such thing? It’s simply a case of adjusting to each new challenge?

 

 

Answer:

It could be interesting to explore what you think the experience of reframing should be like. How long should it take?  Draw a picture, do some journaling, use your creativity or your body to really flesh out this picture for yourself.

How would you answer your questions? You get to decide.

Where do you feel the most resistance? Why do you think that is? What part of this process feels like it takes the most energy?

Something that comes to mind, and I always try to follow these little ideas and share them, you take it or leave it.  But there’s an idea in parenting that I’ve heard and it goes something like this: If you have a child that is great at guitar and struggling in maths, we tend to want to get them a math tutor. Instead, get them a guitar teacher.  Basically meaning, we often try to fix perceived weakness instead of adding fuel and energy to the places that we are doing well and are interested in.  It sounds like right now your brain really wants to fix the parts where the see-saw is down.  What if you allowed yourself to shift more energy to the upside. Or even to enjoying the ride?

What do you think?