Regret

Hi
I applied for a programme recently that I heard 2 days ago I didn’t get. The feedback said that I asked for support that wasn’t possible and that I hadn’t told them in enough detail about my idea. The thing that I feel frustrated with is that I was told that I should ask for the support I did by a tutor, and my idea was the thing I could have told them about in a lot of detail but I was advised not to. I feel like I’ve been given bad advice that I took and it back fired. I know I could have not listened but I didn’t know much about the application process so I took the advice. I feel like I didn’t give myself enough time for the task, and I also misunderstood one part of it (that we had 3-5 mins for the presentation rather than just 3). I am proud of myself for doing the application in the first place, and even doing the course that led me to make the application. I have also just applied to a similar programme and I made sure I was specific about the things I was told I didn’t elaborate on. So, I’ve put the feedback into practice and I’m aware you can’t win them all! However, I’m struggling to let go of the frustration of feeling like I was given bad advice by the people who were in the know, and not doing as good a job as I’d have liked. I know people make mistakes and I know I have and my tutor did. It’s also possible that I wasn’t right for the programme and they wouldn’t have accepted me even if I’d done these things. I’m disappointed as I wanted the support that the programme would have offered, and I feel I’m on my own with it now which makes me feel stuck and heavy. I wonder if I can think of all the things I wanted from the programme and try and make my own way of getting them. This is a helpful thought, and feels like much harder work than it might have been. Thanks for any insights

 

 

Answer:

So many wins in this story! Be sure you are really pulling them out and celebrating them. Absolutely love your final thought. What did you want to get from the programme? How can you make it more likely you will get those things? How can you allow the Universe to bring them to you? Be open to receiving what’s already on its way to you.

When you notice the frustration, it’s important to be really honest with yourself. It’s easy to blame and be angry at someone else, but can you (with complete love and compassion) own the choices you made through this process that lead to how you showed up? Can you give your tutor some love and compassion? What about the people making the decision about the programme? It feels really important to your brain to be mad, but what if it’s not necessary? You get to choose where you put your energy. See what you find as you explore and come back for more coaching.