Rejection

Hi,

I’ve been looking for management for the last few months, and have been reaching out to people here and there. Being in my summer, today I felt capable of taking big massive action and sent some messages and emails I’ve been holding off sending for a while. However, usually after making the massive action I get worried its gonna come back to bite me in the ass- meaning that I act all confident and fine the minute I send the messages, but in the aftermath I feel small and get more and more afraid that the answers are gonna be a version of no and that its gonna leave me feeling embarrassed and hurt and ashamed. Today I didn’t feel the fear of rejection that much cause my hormone levels are high, but on most other days I feel vulnerable and have a hard time facing possible rejection. I have made some models, but could really do with some perspective on this as I would love not to make their answers mean anything about me. I want to feel safe within myself regardless of their responses.

 

Answer:

I love that you know that usually after taking massive action, you know exactly where your brain goes. This knowledge of your brain’s default cycle gives you the opportunity to say, “OHHHH YES! This is the part where I freak out and my brain tells me that the no’s mean I should feel ashamed, embarrassed and hurt,” and it allows you to extend some love, compassion and understanding to yourself. It also creates space for you to decide whether it gets to be the narrative that dominates your story, or if it’s just the intro. If you were to continue writing this story to reflect one way you’d like to experience The Aftermath of Massive Action, what would the next sentence be? Some ideas are for how to start are…
“But…”
“And…”
“It might also be true that…”
“It’s possible…”

“Maybe…”
We’d love to hear what you create and what you notice comes up or opens up for you. Come back with a follow up submission (a part 2 if you will) when you’re ready for more coaching.